Why I Can't Stand Toxic People

Why I Can't Stand Toxic People
By Pastor Alexander L. Redd
June 19, 2024

Gracious Hope Bible Fellowship has three Facebook and one WhatsApp chat room. These chat rooms help us connect as a community of believers in Christ Jesus. Unfortunately, some people in our community have a negative impact on our interactions. Understanding what behaviors make someone toxic is important to promote a peaceful environment and self-awareness. What does it mean to be a toxic person?

Toxic people are those who, like a venomous snake, inject behaviors or attitudes that cause harm to others. These individuals often display traits such as manipulation, dishonesty, selfishness, and a chilling lack of empathy. They may be controlling or critical or consistently create relationship drama and conflict, like a storm that never seems to pass.

Toxic people often prioritize their own needs at the expense of others and may engage in harmful or abusive behavior. Interactions with toxic people can be draining, distressing, and emotionally exhausting. Recognizing toxic behavior is essential in creating healthy boundaries and maintaining well-being in your relationships.

When toxic people are present, their main focus is on your reaction. It's interesting to observe that when you bring up an issue or express your hurt caused by their actions or mistakes, instead of owning up to their behavior or trying to understand your perspective, they immediately shift the attention to your reaction.

They might ask, "Why are you so angry?" or completely divert the conversation to your emotions without taking any responsibility themselves. It can be frustrating when you hope to have a meaningful conversation and work towards healing and resolution in the relationship, but instead, you are met with a dysfunctional diversion.

It feels like every interaction with them is an emotional quicksand, never staying on topic or addressing the actual situation at hand. The truth is that these toxic individuals are not interested in finding a resolution or improving the relationship. They try to avoid shame and responsibility, even if it means sacrificing your well-being. Ultimately, I love them, just as Jesus loves me. Help me, oh Jesus!